Is it my fault?
I always get admonished for being too mean to guys or making it too hard for them to approach me. I honestly have a good reason 95% of the time of why I choose to not pay attention to said guy. Listen up guys everything about you tells a story! From what you’re wearing, how you speak, how you walk, what corny game lines you try to spit, who you walked in the door with, what drink you ordered, what songs you danced to, the list can go on forever. All that in my brain computes into a score and call me shallow but if your score isn’t in the 90 percentile i’m not stopping my pace to listen to whatever you’re talking about. Call me mean if you want to, but I’m not into wasting time or energy on something/someone that I know I will have issues with. Of course a guy never sees what they do to get a girl to not talk to them, they are just so quick to call a girl mean or rude.
Case in point last weekend:
Guys Perspective: I drive up to my apartments parking lot. Park my car. Get out with my daughter, and proceed to walk into the building. A guy standing by his car in the parking lot sees me and says “Can I have 30 seconds of your time?” I yell back “NO!” without even looking in his direction.
I’m sure he thought I was rude, mean, a b@itch, and everything else under the sun at that point.
My perspective: I drive up to my apartments parking lot. Backing in my car to park I spot a guy peeing in the corner outside. Uh, does he not have an apartment to do that in, but chooses do it on the side of the building in the parking lot? I say ewww and get out my car take a huge luggage bag from out my trunk (I had just came from a out of town vacation). I also pull out my daughter’s stroller and click her and her car seat into the stroller. I start walking to the building. Mind you I was noticeably struggling pushing a 20lb child and stroller with one hand and pulling a huge luggage bag with the other. I even think I was kind of sweating a little lol. Same guy who was peeing in the corner is standing next to his car with the music blasting and says “Can I have 30 seconds of your time?” NOT do you need some help, or maybe I won’t say anything since she is doing a lot right now. Of course my reaction is HELL NO you can’t have any of my time.
But of course they see none of that. So is it really my fault that I don’t want to waste my time talking to you?